When my wife and I first married, it was with the intent that it would last forever. About six years into the marriage, we found ourselves facing some pretty serious problems. Neither of us knew if the marriage would continue, or even if we wanted to stay married. Fortunately, we found a counselor who helped us make sense of what was a very confusing time. Bit by bit, we were able to get a handle on what was happening and figure out a way to resolve those problems together. Without the help of that counselor, I doubt we would be together today. If you are leery of seeking counseling, let me put your mind at rest. The right therapy will help you find the answers you seek and make it possible to move forward. Stay with me and I'll share a little of what I learned along the way.
Approximately 51,000 babies are adopted each year in the United States. For every baby given up for adoption, there are as many as 36 couples waiting with open arms. If you've decided to give your baby up for adoption, you can rest assured that they are desperately wanted. The couple who adopts your child may have dealt with infertility for years, and they waited several years before being matched. Your child is a gift that they will treasure and love. If you want to make the gift even more special, include one or more of the following.
Family Genetic History
One of the greatest gifts you can give to your child's adoptive family is a thorough account of your family's genetic and medical history as well as their father's. A complete family medical history will equip your child's parents and doctor with the information they need to accurately look for, diagnose and treat specific illnesses that are passed down throughout the generations. For example, Type 1 diabetes has a strong genetic component, and early detection is key.
A Keepsake Box
Many adoptive parents have little information pertaining to the birth of their child. Rarely do they get any physical keepsakes from the first moments of their child's life. These memories are precious. If you can, collect your baby's crib card, wristband, footprints, a picture -- anything you can gather -- and place it in a keepsake box for the adoptive parents. If there are any special accounts of the birth, include those as well.
A Touching Letter
Most adoptive parents want to know more about the woman that gave birth to their child. A touching letter that tells them a little about you and the reasons you gave your child up for adoption will surely be treasured. You can also include some of the hopes and dreams you have for your child. If you're an artist and wish for your child to be introduced to the arts, you can include that as well.
A Family Heirloom
Family heirlooms and traditions are often overlooked when a baby is placed up for adoption. If every child in your family gets a special coin or birth announcement, give one to your baby as well.
Keep in mind that some adoption procedures forbid any contact or transfer of gifts to the adoptive family. If you're unsure how much information you're legally allowed to provide, talk to your social worker.
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